Breaking Free from the Tool Shed of Self-Sabotage

Breaking Your Self-Sabotage Bungee Cord

For most of my life, I felt trapped, stuck in an endless cycle of frustration and defeat, as if I were tethered to a tool shed filled with self-sabotaging habits. My coach's metaphor of the tool shed resonates deeply with me because I’ve lived it. My ‘tool’ of choice was food, but the struggle wasn’t just about what I ate. It ran much deeper and when I put the food down, i replaced it with some other form of self-sabotage because I hadn't addressed the root cause.

I was constantly searching for the one thing that was going to fix me. A diet, a program, a book, or a method that would instantly solve all my problems and make me whole again. This was my inner child at work, craving quick fixes, instant results, and relief that wouldn’t last. I wanted change without the discomfort of the process. What I didn’t realise at the time was that this mindset, this endless seeking, was holding me hostage. I was living an adult life with child-like behaviour.

Each new attempt to 'fix me' started with excitement and hope but quickly spiralled into disappointment when results didn’t come fast enough. I’d tell myself the effort was a waste of time, give up, and start the cycle over again. It wasn’t that the programs or tools I tried didn’t work; it was that I wasn’t giving them the time or consistency they needed to make an impact.

It wasn’t until I uncovered the truth behind my patterns, my deep subconscious programming, that I understood what was wrong. My subconscious was tugging me back to the familiar, the “safe,” no matter how destructive or damaging it was. The bungee cord tying me to the tool shed of self-sabotage was stronger than my willpower or motivation. To break it, I had to learn something entirely new. I had to understand the power of patience and consistency.

The first thing I had to understand is how my  behaviour had been manufactured and operated by a part of my mind I knew nothing about!  Below is a video regarding that secret part of the brain, basically taking control of the behaviour of three teenagers. If you know how this secret part of the brain works, you can reprogram it at any time and in any way you wish.  In life you can either control your own behaviour and programming or something (or someone) else will. 

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The Battle with My Inner Child

For so long, patience and consistency were completely alien to me. My child mind sought instant gratification, like opening presents on Christmas morning except this was every day. It was impatient, impulsive, and driven by survival mechanisms that didn’t allow for discomfort or waiting. My subconscious didn’t care about thriving; it only cared about doing what was familiar to stay “safe.”

This is why I kept landing back at the tool shed. I wanted transformation without the work. I feared sitting with my emotions or stepping into the unknown. It took a combination of self-sabotage strategies and a lot of hard truths for me to see just how much my subconscious was running the show.

How I Finally Broke Free

Breaking free wasn’t about finding the “perfect” solution. It was about using the right tools with patience, consistency, and a willingness to face myself. Here’s what helped me step away from the tool shed and weaken the constant pull of the bungee cord for good:

1. Affirmations (Wall Art)

At the start, simply changing the words I fed my subconscious felt revolutionary. I surrounded myself with pictures and affirmations that uplifted, empowered, and shifted my internal belief system. Simple statements like, “I am worthy of transformation,” or, “I show up for myself every day,” began to replace the negative, self-sabotaging scripts in my mind. Consistency turned these affirmations into anchors that kept me grounded.

2. Hypnosis and Reprogramming

Hypnosis allowed me to tap into my subconscious and understand the programming that was keeping me stuck in those old patterns. With daily hypnosis I was able to rewrite those internal rules and beliefs, replacing them with healthier options that supported growth and self-love rather than sabotage.

3. Focusing on Health

Instead of obsessing over what I needed to cut out of my life, I shifted my focus to what I could add to it, like foods that made me feel energetic and strong, gentle movement, and getting enough rest. This approach gave me purpose and motivation, helping me shift from depletion to abundance. Health is the primary pillar of strength for ending self sabotage and these days you have to be extra vigilant to safeguard yourself against all the toxins in our food and environment. I provide extensive and well researched resources for all my clients to support with this.

4. Giving Up Caffeine

I don’t think I realised how much caffeine was influencing my emotional and mental state until I gave it up. It had been fuelling my highs and lows, adding to my lack of stability and perpetuating my cravings for “instant satisfaction” with sugar! Once I removed it from my life, I gained clarity, focus, and a steadier sense of control over my choices.

5. Practicing Patience and Resilience

This was the big one. I had to take small, consistent steps every day and trust that they were adding up, even when it didn’t feel like it. Change didn’t happen overnight, and there were times I stumbled, felt like giving up, or thought it wasn’t working. But as I stuck with it, the pull of the bungee cord weakened and I know eventually it will snap!

The Gift of Patience

The most surprising thing about this journey was what patience gave me. It wasn’t just about breaking free from self-sabotage, it was about learning to trust myself. I developed a new belief system, one that didn’t rely on instant results or external validation. It taught me how to sit with discomfort, how to stay the course, and how to become the person I wanted to be.

Most importantly, I realised I wasn’t broken. I didn’t need fixing. What I needed was to understand and become aware of were my patterns, my mind, and my subconscious programming, then learn how to work with myself, rather than against myself.

Take Your First Step

If you’ve been chasing quick fixes, feeling stuck in self-sabotaging patterns, or caught up in constant seeking, know this: you are not alone. Real change takes time, patience, and the right tools - but it is absolutely possible.

I’m here to help you on that path. I want to guide and support you in uncovering their subconscious programming and breaking free from the cycles that keep them stuck. If you’re ready to take that first step toward transformation, reach out and explore coaching with me.

You don’t need to do this alone. Together, we can loosen that bungee cord and create the freedom and transformation you’ve been searching for. The tool shed isn’t your home. You are capable of so much more.

Are you ready to start walking away from it?

Click here to contact me today to learn more about the tools and insights that helped me transform my life. You’ve got this—and I’m here to support you every step of the way.